Recently in the news people have been hacking emails, and the emails have been embarrassing to some people which leads us to the old adage, “Never put anything in writing.” And there are lots of reasons for not putting anything in writing. But that is with the world of illusion, but in the world of reality, every word we say has to be as if it was written in stone.
Now can you imagine being at a point in your life when you mean everything that you say, and you do everything that you say, and if you don’t mean it, you don’t say it. It would change the nature of speech among men dramatically. But it also does something else; if you mean what you say, you’re sincere. If you have a loose tongue you lack sincerity, you’re a person who tries to accommodate the moment as opposed to accommodating your own truth. So if we run through our life accommodating the moment, we have no center, and if we have no center, we’re incapable of being sincere; which brings on a whole other range of understandings.
If we’re not sincere, then we don’t have a real belief system. If we’re not sincere, then we don’t have a real ethical system. If we’re not sincere, then we don’t have an understanding of right and wrong because we are incapable of following through once we grow into the habit of not following through.
So, what we have to do is somehow develop a system within ourselves where we are the same on the inside as we are on the outside. Because if there is a difference between who we are on the inside and who we are on the outside you can easily see how sincerity is not going to be what comes out. What comes out is that which will get us what we want in the moment but will not reveal our true motives, our true intent.
It’s very difficult to become spiritual without sincerity; it’s very difficult to touch reality without sincerity, because it means that we are fluctuating. Fluctuating where? Fluctuating in an illusory existence, because in reality, there is no fluctuating; there what’s real and we are either with it or not with it.
So how do we enter into sincerity? All of these terms, and all of these ways of being take an effort to make them so. So as we speak, we have to become careful about our words. We can’t just say things for the sake of saying them. We have to be grounded in our speech. We have to be centered in our speech, and we have to try as best we can to be truthful in our speech. And as we develop the habit of being careful with our speech and truthful with our speech, relationships with other people begin to change.
If I feel I can say to you whatever I want, without it having any basis in truth just to get by to the next moment, what’s that say about the way I feel about you? What’s that say about my actual relationship with you? What it says is: that my relationship with you is based on what I need, and my relationship with you is not based on what you need, nor is it based on an actual relationship. It’s a stepping-stone to the next thing that I want. Now think about that.
If we have a loose mouth, we have loose lips, if we say things to accommodate the moment, we cannot establish real relationships, and the people on the other end can all figure that out pretty quickly unless you have become really adept at falsifying your intent. And there are a lot of people out there who are really very good at falsifying their intent. They’re called con-men, and they’re very believable, that’s why they’re called con-men. And they seem very nice, because if they weren’t, they couldn’t gain your confidence. But the point is; they’re not real, and eventually you’re going to find out. And if you believed too much it may be to your own detriment.
But, I’m one, who would rather be a little naïve than a little sarcastic. So, as I walk through the world, I tend to believe people until it is evident that they shouldn’t be believed, and that usually doesn’t take more than two times. Because if they’re not telling the truth you can tell pretty quickly, like for instance, people will tell you they’ll do something for you, and if they don’t, it means that when they said it they didn’t mean it. It had no weight to it, they weren’t sincere. Their words didn’t carry the weight of an obligation; their words were not as if they had written a contract out with you.
We have to become the ones whose words are like contracts; written, signed, sealed, notarized and being able to be called on demand. We have to have that kind of integrity.
God has integrity. God follows through on his promises. We have to be able to follow through on our promises. We have to be ones who when they say something; mean it, do it, and follow through on it as best as they possibly can. And if you tell somebody something that you’d like to do, then you should phrase it, “If it was possible, I would like to do this for you but I don’t have the time.” As opposed to, “I’ll do this for you tomorrow.” When you’re never going to do it anyway…
